Monday, 26 October 2015

What do you deserve?

We all know in certain circumstances when it is time to walk away. Whether it is a group of work colleagues that drain the life out of you or mammys at the school you just don't click with. You stay away, you don't interact and for all intensive purposes you stay away from situations that are negative and will do nothing but negatively effect you're mental self, your mood and your aura. Fairly easily, you don't really know these people and cutting them out doesn't directly effect your life.
Now what happens when these people are friends, family members, partners and walking away just isn't as easy as it sounds. 
At what point do you say enough is enough, being around this person or people is affecting your life in a negative way. When do you think about yourself and put you first and say as much as there are many good times and good qualities in this person they just don't out way the bad any more. 
It is very common to not put yourself first. To grin and bare almost anything for the sake of others. But when should you be selfish, put yourself first and say I deserve better. When do you walk away from a relationship that is draining, stressful and having an effect on every aspect of your life. When do you ignore the fact that you have been friends for 25 years or in a relationship for 10years and had 2 great years or you are blood related and that is paramount. 
When do you say I am a good person, this is not normal, this is not a happy life. And I deserve a happy life. I want to laugh and have fun and be truely happy and that is not something that you make me. 
When the negativity effects every other aspect of your life, how you treat others, how you treat your children, how you treat yourself then for me it is time to walk away. When you have been put down so much that you start to truly believe it yourself then it is time to walk away. 
When a persons negative words become your inner voice it is time to walk away. 
And when u open your mouth and the negativity of that person comes out, it is time to walk away. 
When you are afraid to do something, anything because you know it will cause a problem or you walk on egg shells just to try keep that person in a happy place to make your life easier, when anything you do is never good enough or you walk through the door not knowing which mood or person you are going to meet today it is time to remove yourself from that situation. 
When a factor in a decision you are making is based solely on how another person will react, it is time to walk away.
Life it way too short to be anything but truely happy. It is such a cliche but true.
Life has its ups and downs and people have bad days but when it is more than that and it is effecting every part your life something needs to change. 
I want to spend my life laughing, having fun and spending time with people that love me and lift me higher. 
I want to look back on my life when my time comes and smile. 
Do you?

Friday, 16 October 2015

Get to know me... Q&A

Hi everyone, 
Thanks for all your private mails and emails with your questions! I like to keep alot of my life quite private so not answering the very personal questions for now but as I do more get to know me blog posts I'm sure I will dive a little deeper!! 

How old are you? 
I am 27! 28 in December! I have always looked much younger than I am so nobody ever believes me when I tell them! Both of my parents look amazing for their ages so I put it down to great genes! 

What do you work as? 
I am a fully qualified beauty therapist. Since having Noa belle I work only from home now. We have a log cabin out our back garden and I work soley from there! 

What advice would you give a first time breast feeder? 
On my blog I do have a few breastfeeding related blogs and blogs I have written that would be great for first time breastfeeders. 
But, to sum it up... Drink loads and loads of water, don't put yourself under any pressure or any routine and listen to your baby and your maternal instincts! 
Breastfeeding Noa was the best thing I have ever done in my life. 

What do you everyday? 
Kyle is in school, senior infants! So everyday is school runs and most afternoons Kyle has an activity or if he doesn't he will have a play date. And looking after Noa of course! I work 3 evenings a week too! 

Where did you go to secondary school? 
I went to Holy Faith in Clontarf!

What beauty product is your must have? 
My must have at the moment is moisturiser. I suffer bad from dry skin and psoriasis during pregnancy and it's at it's worst at the mo! 
I also above all must have bio oil or coconut oil at the mo too! I used it on both pregnancies and now on #3 and still have no stretch marks! (Fingers crossed!!!)

What is your natural hair colour?
I'm actually really close to my natural hair colour at the mo! I spent all my teenage years dying my hair every colour under the sun so I am enjoying how healthy my hair is now being it's natural colour! 

There was some more personal questions people asked but for now while my blog is still growing I will keep some things private! 

Thanks for reading, 
Thanks for following
And thanks for the support! 

Lots of love 

Sunday, 11 October 2015

Things you should never say to a pregnant woman!

Was it planned? 
Now regardless of if she has been trying for years or got drunk and missed her pill- really this is none of your business. She is telling you because she is excited and wants everyone to be excited too! A more appropriate thing to say is plain and simple... Congratulations.. 

Will this be your last? 
Wow- not sure I've even discussed that with my husband yet!!!! 

Your bump is tiny! 
Regardless of a woman's weight, it's not something we appreciate you commenting on. And pregnancy is no exception. For a woman that is small like me and very conscious of trying to put on weight I don't want to hear about how small I look and as for a woman who has more weight and perhaps is not showing at all, the same rules apply.. When you say wow your so tiny, you may mean it as a compliment- all I hear is wow is baby okay?!
If you want to compliment a pregnant just tell her she looks amazing- that'll do the trick! 

Can I rub your belly? 
NO.... Just no!!

Are you hoping for a girl/boy?? 
She has two boys already so already every second person has said "you're hoping for a girl?" 
Maybe not!!! I know when I was pregnant second time around I would have loved another little boy for a brother for my son.

You shouldn't drink/eat that.....
Again, just walk away slowly......
I have been sick for 25 weeks straight, breakfast, lunch and dinner. If I can now finally stomach my beloved latte again then that is exactly what I am going to have. 

You know you're really pregnant for 10months? 
You know that's actually really annoying when people remind me!!!